Sexual Predators

Although Fremont Fellowship Hall has been around for years, helping many get and stay sober, if you're new to sobriety and attending this hall, BEWARE! As with many places where public people gather for any reason, including businesses, work places, public parks, and even churches, Fremont Fellowship Hall, as helpful as it is, is also a public place, and there are some that are sober, but still very sick. So, be careful who you trust.

Many new persons come into recovery really needing some friends, guidance, and help, and have suffered out 'there' in their addictions for a long time without goog relationships. So, basically, they come in the doors being very vunerable.

Just a word of caution, there are those that have been sober for years, and are still very sick sexually. Be careful who you trust!!! Ask around about an individual before you become victimized.

The GOD Box

It was suggested today that I place this current "want" which, of course being an alcoholic, I think as a "need", into a detailed letter format a place it into a GOD BOX, which is basically a can or shoe box or something that you call your "GOD Box" and symbolically place your 'issues' within it as if letting them go and handing them over to God.

Good suggestion and I may go make a "God Can" to keep in my motor home where I can place these, what I call... Goals. Being an alcoholic, I've learned that we seem to be big failures at 'self discipline' and need God to discipline us. There is the part where we must take action and get off of our asses and do something. God's not going to slide cheeseburgers under my door while I sit my butt on the couch!

Complaining vs Explaining

There's a fine line between complaining and explaining. It seems that people who have not done much self examination in the 4th step work, usually hear complaining when you're actually explaining something to them.

If we have not done enough inside work to get out of our 'victim' roles, then we are still traumatized by everything and everyone in the past, not to mention the present, with all the little interactions we have relating to people.

It goes along the lines of 'hearing what we want to hear' or 'we process only what is inside of us'.

When I work with others around the program and I see that they're stuck in the victim-itis of their disease, and I explain a situation, they can only hear complaint, because if you're explaining something in depth, they have a hard time processing it as simple story telling or information relayed.

It's similar to when I "explain" the AA program to my chronically alcoholic brother, and all he hears is me "complain" about his drinking.

There's answers locked inside of us, if we search them out. Try doing the 'California 4th Step' which can be found online. It's a workbook that will help you unlock the answers within and then, not only will you "EXPLAIN" more often than "COMPLAIN", you will also hear the difference when someone is just "EXPLAINING" things to you and not attacking you with "COMPLAINTS"!

Sick and Tired

I'm sick and tired of the drama around the hall, and most of all, the people that talk about the drama around the hall even when they're not AT the hall! Hey, what's up with this picture? Are we that insecure that all we have to do is hang around this corner on 90th and Aurora and have these big pissing contests of who's who and who's doing who and who's working who and who's not working? This is a lot of bullshit that has nothing to do with the AA program.

They say it all the time at meetings and the solution is the same...

Get a sponsor, get a homegroup, do the steps!

Not... Hang out at AA hall for the rest of your life like it's some bar room social hour, which turns into hour after hour. Notice the people that are doing something with their lives, they may stop by for a single meeting, then they go HOME!